Written by Shelly Moore ©️ 2025

🌗 Let’s say the quiet part out loud:

Most of us were raised to think “choosing sides” is not only necessary, but noble.

You pick your righteous hill to die on, clutch it like a toddler hoarding the last cookie, and scream at anyone who dares suggest maybe your hill has a shadow side too.

Meanwhile:

🫣 Your nervous system? Shot.

💔 Your relationships? Fragile.

🌎 Your worldview? About as flexible as a brick.

I say this with love: Choosing sides is f*cking exhausting.

Polarity isn’t. Polarity is nature’s secret sauce.

Choosing sides is the human addiction that turns that sauce rancid.

⚖️ Polarity is Life’s Heartbeat. Extremism is Not.

Your chest rises and falls because — guess what? — polarity.

Your heart contracts, then relaxes.

Your lungs sigh out frustration when someone on your feed says something idiotic.

🌙✨ Yin and yang. Sun and moon. Simultaneously loving your kids so much it hurts and wanting to run away for five blessed minutes of silence.

Polarity = normal, healthy, delicious. Restores balance.

Extremism = you getting stuck on one side of the dance floor refusing to switch partners.

🧘‍♀️ Neutrality: The Misunderstood Superpower

We’ve been conditioned to think neutrality = spineless.

Neutrality = “both sides-ism” = letting evil slide by while you hum softly in the corner.

🙄 Wrong.

True neutrality — zero point — is fierce, boy. Let me tell you.

It’s the vantage point where you see all perspectives, weigh them honestly, and call out the moldy nonsense no matter which tribe tries to feed it to you.

It means you stop getting baited by fear headlines and collective moral panic.

It means you stop seeing people you disagree with as literal goblins.

(My father, who just passed away last month, used to love politics and would always say to me, “I miss the good ol’ days when two politicians could have an intensely heated argument, then go have dinner together with their families.” Me too, dad. Me too.)

🫶 Empathy is Your Superpower. You Forgot. Let’s Remember.

Empathy is not a hippie crystal buzzword.

It’s biology. It’s the how and why our species didn’t eat each other back when we had to share a fire. 🔥

We traded it for team loyalty and cancel culture hysteria.

• Want peace of mind?

• Want to heal your nervous system?

• Want to stop replaying pointless arguments in the shower or while you’re trying desperately fall asleep at night?

Rebuild your empathy.

You don’t lose your backbone. You don’t stop standing for truth.

It’s just the opposite. It’s like your ability to see things for how they truly are is given steroids.

You stop making enemies out of everyone who thinks differently. You begin to understand it’s all deeply embedded programming.

🗝️ Here’s the Paradox (and a Shelly Mic Drop):

✨ Polarity is nature’s pulse.

❌ Picking rigid sides is optional — and f*cking exhausting. No wonder we’re all at our wits end.

🌱 Neutrality is not passivity. It’s clarity, strength, and calm in the storm.

From the center point, you act wisely. Fiercely. Compassionately. Unbiased and free.

And nobody can push you one way or the other, because you understand it all so much better. The necessary play between sides. The energetic imbalance. That there is a fundamental place for dichotomy in this world, but feeding the sides versus the center is the wrong way to go about it.

🫧 A Fault Line, a Little Light — and a Nudge

As my poem Philosophy reminds us:

Just don’t make the mistake

Of allowing your ego to inflate

When someone says something conflicting

When a person says something about something

Which causes a fault line to split in your thinking

A hairline fracture of doubt

Consider it a gift, if you’ll allow

Serving to keep our human lives far more interesting.

🌎 Crack open your worldview.

☀️ Let in the light.

☕️ Stand at zero point.

Watch your fear shrink and your empathy grow sharp and spacious again.

I’ll meet you right here in the middle, love. The coffee is warm, the floor we stand upon is sturdy, and you’re absolutely not alone anymore. Breathe. Let’s course correct humanity one human at a time. 🕊️

— Shelly

✨ If this moved you — share it. Seed some light in the next mind over. Let’s break a few more fault lines together. 🤍